Learning About Others
As your child gets older and begins to be around more people, he or she will meet children who are not like him or her. They may look or sound different, have different abilities, or be part of other kinds of families or cultures. Help your child understand that every person is unique and special. If you notice your child staring at someone, remember he or she is just being curious. Talk to your child about what he or she sees and answer any questions about the differences he or she notices in others. Encourage your child to make friends with all kinds of people. Try to set a good example yourself.
Help Your Child Deal With Stress
Many things may cause stress, including both happy and sad things. Starting school, family changes (such as a new brother or sister, a move, or a divorce), or broader world events can all be stressful. Learn when your child is feeling stress by noticing changes in how he or she behaves. Your child may:
- Feel sick or cry and whine more often than usual.
- Have temper tantrums or trouble getting along with others.
- Not want to do things he or she usually enjoys.
There are things that you can do to help your child cope in any stressful situation, such as:
- Keep your daily routines the same as much as possible. This helps your child feel safe.
- Talk with your child to find out what he or she is feeling and thinking.
- Give your child simple, honest answers. Be sure to answer all questions, but remember, too much information may be scary or confusing.
- Help your child express and release feelings by doing things, such as drawing, playing with dolls or puppets, and being physically active.
Help Your Child Learn to Handle Strong Feelings
You are a role model for your child. Children learn how to treat others by watching you. You set a good example when you show your child respect as you talk about strong feelings and solve problems.
It may be hard to listen to your child when he or she is very angry or upset. When your child is mad at you it's even more difficult. Listen to your child to help him or her calm down and talk. If you need to calm down, take a deep breath and count to 10. Try to listen without interrupting. Kneel or bend down to your child's level. Tell your child that you want to hear and understand his or her feelings. Then you can find ways to solve the problem together.
Questions About Sex are Normal
You may be uncomfortable or worried about how to answer your child's questions about sex. If you need help, ask your doctor, nurse, or a trusted friend for help and ideas. You can also find helpful books at your local library.
When your child asks you a question about sex or private body parts, keep your answer short and simple. Use the correct words for body parts and try not to seem embarrassed. Find out why your child is asking the question. This may make it easier to answer.